Please Don't Call A Woman Who Has Been Disrespected And Body Shamed A Liar

Dear stranger who popped up in my news feed,

You don't know me and I don't know you. In fact, I have no clue how the hell your word vomit of a status update ended up in my news feed but it did and here we are. Can we take a second to talk about this?

This Guy Is An Ass Hole

WONDERFUL. So for reference, here's the article that this wonderful man felt compelled to add his two cents to.

A couple of things,

FIRST OF ALL, when a woman talks about being disrespected and body shamed by anyone, male or female, your initial response should never be, "Where is the proof?". Women have a pretty long history of men telling them what they should and shouldn't be doing with their lives and bodies so history kind of rules in her favor. (And there's a reason her response went viral. Other women experienced a similar encounter and felt compelled to share their own stories.)  But the point is, this woman was degraded and disrespected. That's all that matters. Period. End of story. Next time, try starting from a place of compassion. 

Second, just because some people are jackwads, that does not make their behavior acceptable. We all have a responsibility to treat each other with respect, jackwad or not. It's important that we draw a big fat circle around deplorable behavior and remind the world that acting like an asshole isn't OK! It comes down to power and when someone makes you feel small, it's important that you let your voice be heard. Which brings me to...

Have you ever been caught off guard? It's hard to do the right thing when a complete stranger is telling you that your boobs are saggy in front of your small child. So yes, she made lemonade out of lemons by sharing her disgusting encounter, her frustration and disappointment, and subsequently empowering others. The fact that you don't see that is incredibly disconcerting.

And finally, on behalf of all of your social media friends and strangers like me who have to be subjected to your status updates, please think before you write. Words have power. It's not about, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." It's about, "If you don't have anything constructive,  enlightening, or entertaining to say, don't say anything at all". This status update was none of the above and I'm incredibly disappointment in you.

On behalf of all humans, please be better. And on behalf of women, get it the fuck together.


Kelly Roberts